my psa for the day

i have small public service announcement.

for any mamma's to be, this is the best advice

i ever received when i was pregnant.

 

go buy diapers.

 

margie, my experienced mom friend,

gave me that sliver of wisdom 

when i told her the news i was pregnant.

she said to start picking them up every time i go to the store.

just need milk?

buy milk and diapers.

pick a brand and get every size.

and so i did.

(ps- we bought pampers and i love them.)

we started a stockpile in the basement and

i would tape the receipt to the diaper box

in case i needed to return any for a different size.

and somehow, we never had to return any.

 

but today,

on this very mundane friday,

almost EIGHT months after brette was born,

i had to buy diapers.

we still have two boxes left in the basement

but they are too big so i'm saving those for later.

 

do you know how crazy nice it was

to  n e v e r  have to worry about running out?

not to mention the expense we saved once we lost my income.

if you think about it,

once brette got here, 

she has pretty much not cost us a penny.

i fed her, we already had diapers and jaime has clothed her with

all of madeline's hand-me-downs.

its been awesome.

 

so there you go, pregnant people.

go buy diapers.

 

you'll thank me later.

 

 

 

 

(i took this a step further and also bought wipes, dreft, shampoo

and started a little store in our basement.  it's been sa-weet.)   

big girl moments

we had a busy tuesday.

 

i wanted to get brette a bouncer

but the ones around town were kind of expensive.

especially since she'll probably only

be using it for 3 or 4 more months.

so i checked on craigslist and found a jumperoo.

we headed to belton and i bought this one from another

stay-at-home mamma for ten bucks.

what what.

 

she loves it.

laughs and bounces forever.

i'm hoping this will help strengthen her legs

since she shows no signs of wanting to crawl.

at all.

 

its too hard to get a good picture of someone jumping

so here is a little video i took of the three of us

 jumping around to bob marley this evening.

 

 

next we headed downtown kc

for her first dentist appointment.

i realize that 7 months old is super early

to get her teeth checked,

but our good friend, turnbow needed to check a baby for dental school

and i thought it might be fun.

 

 

she laid on my lap and let him explore her mouth.

then we got a free toy and toothbrush for her.

its actually good we went because

now we will start brushing her teeth.

(something we just started tonight)

 

and last, it was bath night.

ronald is in charge of her baths,

but when i went in there, i noticed he still has her lying down.

i suggested she sit up and play in the water.

i think he was just so used to laying her down

that he forgot that she was able to sit now.

she loved it.

we busted out her bath toys and she splashed and played.

 

 

 

so basically we had a big day

full of big girl moments.

our weekend

it's 9:30am and brette is still asleep.

she's probably trying to score some points with me

after the rough weekend we had.

it started out great.

my parent's watched her friday night

so ronnie and i could go out to dinner and have a few drinks

with the turnbow's in warrensburg.

i hadn't been out at night since my 30th birthday in september

and i hadn't been without brette since i went to lunch for kassie's

birthday in november. 

it was time for a break.

(ps- i really want to start doing this more and more.)

me and b need to get comfortable being apart.

its good for both of us.

especially if i start working.

it will probably be a really hard transition unless

i ease into it.

mammas - how did you make the transition from being

together all the time to being apart?

friday actually worked out really well because we weren't meeting

for dinner until 7:00 so i could put b to bed before we ever left.

makes life easier.

except she woke up 2 minutes after we walked out the door and

my mom spent the next 30 minutes walking her around and

rocking her back to sleep.

this is why i feel like sometimes, its just easier

if i stay home.

but saturday morning b woke up fussy

and was super constipated.

she was also running a fever on and off all day.

we finally gave her a suppository

and we've been feeding her prunes.

not sure what caused this

but i can tell its painful

and really uncomfortable for my poor baby.

it also means i'm holding her and walking her

around a lot.

yesterday i finally just wrapped her on me

and went outside to rake the yard.

i think she's feeling better.

i'll be able to tell more when she finally wakes up.

but right now,

i'm enjoying a relaxing morning

and hoping all this sleep is just what she needed.

 

 

and tips for constipation in an infant?

the boob-free diet

the dreaded word:

weaning.

 

my sister-n-law, jaime, and i were talking about nursing.

when to stop.

how to stop.

the best way to do it.

there is such pressure to get it right.

i don't want this to be hard on brette or me.

i want it to feel natural and, dare i say, easy.

with my niece madeline, she weaned herself.

and since i'm a stay-at-home-mamma

that would make the most sense for me.

just let brette naturally grow out of it.

except (can i have a selfish moment here) i'm not going to do that.

my goal has always been 11 months.

so random right?

but ronnie and i have a vacation planned at the end of may in mexico.

my bff is getting married and a whole group of us are making the trip.

i really really don't want to lay by the pool and pump.

(i guess that's another selfish decision.)

sure, it would be easy to pack a pump

none of my friends would care,

and if brette was younger, i would.

but, to me, it doesn't make sense to keep up my supply

to just wean her off a couple weeks later.

 

plus, i'm hoping that transitioning a month before her first birthday

will help also lead to an easy transition to milk instead of formula/breastmilk.

(my plan is start milk cold-turkey when she's a year- - pediatrician recommended)

and i'm still unclear of my plan for getting rid of a bottle.

maybe i'll try that at the same time?
not sure.
(suggestions welcome)

 

anyway.

back to nursing.

this all seems sudden.
it was like a slap to the face when i realized that

may is actually right around the corner.

i only have a little over three months to get this going.

only three months of nursing left.
that's sad.

i've turned into one of those moms.

the ones that really enjoy it.

and so this is bittersweet.

oh sure, it will be freeing

but i know i'll miss it too.
and my biggest concern: that brette will miss it more.
one good sign:
i think brette is giving hints that she is ready for this.
i read a good way to tell is if she's ready
to be weaned is if she nurses for shorter spurts
or if she is easily distracted.
this is a picture i took the other day because our morning "session"
was taking f o r e v e r.

she was much more interested in seeing the world upside down.
also, at night, she is IN LOVE with her bottle.
so much that she cries until i give it to her
and THEN she'll nurse.
i'm hoping that means that this might be a good time.

to make it easier, i'm going to start by replacing one feeding with a bottle.
and just slowly take it away little by little.

i'm starting with the one she'll miss the least - - - 9am.

that means i'll still nurse her at

6am

1pm

4pm

7pm

i'm actually thinking about taking the 7pm next.
i know usually that's the last to go,
but brette has been taking a bottle at this time since she was 4 days old,
so i don't think it will be as big of an adjustment as other babies.

i studied a calendar to try a figure out a schedule
(because that's just the way i roll).
if i start tomorrow
and i add another bottle every four weeks,
i can be boobie free by may 14th.
2 days after she's 11 months old
and 7 days before we leave for mexico.


slow and steady wins the race.
hopefully i'll be waving the checkered flag soon.




 

small moments

we went on a sunday afternoon drive

and i captured the life of brette in a nutshell.

 

 

leave me alone, i'm sleeping.

oh god, where am i?

i really need something to chew on.

how about a finger? they're my favorite.

 

 i am so bright eyed and happy after some sleep.

 

 i think its time to get me out of my carseat and play.

 

and that's the basics.

eat.

sleep.

play.

repeat.

 

the life of brette.

it's pretty great.

 

 

 

suck it

take a good look:

 

 

 

 

 

because its the last time you'll see it.

 

 

brette is officially pacifier free.

 

 

say what?! 

whoop. whoop. (i'm raising the roof)

 

and she pretty much decided this for herself.

i think i wanted her to love it for a little while longer

because its so easy to stick that sucker in her mouth if we're out and about

and she decides that yelling might be fun.

but i'm also kind of glad because one friend told me that

it is not good for their teeth or how it changes the shape of the roof of their mouth.

 

[ps - at the time, brette had a pacifier in her mouth and i was like -

oh great, brette's teeth are going to be fucked.

and i always refer to crooked teeth as jafar teeth.

so i guess this is my worst case scenario. damn pacifier.]

 

a n y w a y,

i noticed recently that it was a 50-50 shot whether or not

brette would even take it.

i remember the good ol' days where i could pop it in

and she would sooth herself and seriously pass out within 30 seconds.

it was like ambien.

but once her teeth started coming in

she started using more to chew on

and less for sleeping.

in fact, if she was crying and you were trying to put her down for a nap

she would get seriously ticked if you even tried giving it to her. 

like - you son of a bitch, i know that's not your boob.

quit trying to trick me, idiot.

and then scream even louder.

awesome.

in the last couple of weeks she has been

falling asleep at night while nursing

so she wasn't using it anyhow.

so when my dear friend margie, posted something about ending

the pacifier streak with her kiddo,

it got me thinking about mine.

 

she wasn't using it at night.

she was mad if i tried giving it to her while she was crying.

she was only taking it half the time.

and she was basically using it as a chew toy.

 

there was really no need for it anymore.

so i packed them all away...

(i found five, which is weird because when i needed a pacifier

we could only find one at a time.  seriously. those things are the easiest things to lose.)

... and just stopped offering it at all.

and you know what?

nothing changed.

she still slept the same, napped the same and freely yelled in public.

 

 

 

 

now next on my list of other habits to kick:

the swaddle.

i'm way more reluctant to try this again.

sleep is so lovely.

 

hodge podge

not a lot has been going on.

i mean, it is january.

the month that requires a lot of indoor activities.

something we're not that great at.

it usually involves renting movies.

but luckily, we had a really warm sunday and b is feeling much better

so we finally ventured out.

we packed food, the dogs, one baby girl and headed to [our] park.

unfortunately, is was super windy so we ended up tailgating

instead of using the picnic tables,

but we did manage to go on a little hike on the trails.

 

i love this place

 the dogs love this place.

 and ronnie loves changing diapers on the go.  wink.

we also decided that we needed a night out

so we took brette to her first pizza dinner.

she sipped on water and ate some applesauce i packed for her

while ronnie and i devoured waldo's.

(i made him split a gluten-free pizza with me because of my diet

and we both agree, that we couldn't tell the difference and really liked it.)

 

i also ordered ronnie and i some new sheets from west elm.

i was so busy loving on the grey stripes that i didn't even bother looking at the thread count.

i was just assuming west elm would have nice sheets.

just so you know, this is not the case.

they are not soft and amazing liked i had hoped,

but i DO love how they look.

maybe a few hundred washes and they'll be better?

 

 

and lastly, some random shots of b

in all her cuteness.

she has started scrunching her nose when she smiles.

it makes for some weird photos.

ha!

 

 

 

i'm hoping winter flies by.

i could really use some afternoon stroller walks

and evenings on the deck.