Friday, January 4, 2013

the gender debate

oct 30th

i have not made secret over the last 10 years
that if i had my way, i would have a boy.
in fact, i once told my dear friend, margie,
that i refused to get pregnant until i could accept
the fact and be happy to have a girl.

i am there. 
since before i got pregnant, just like i promised margie.

don't get me wrong,
i still love the idea of a boy.
after all,
a boy will never become what i fear the most:
a teenage girl.

but i have a reason to love the idea of having a girl.
my little girl will have built in best friends -
two beautiful cousins that are just the right age.
i can just see my little one and brian's girls playing together.
and i feel like a little boy might get left out.

so now, i'm torn. 

i guess that means i'll be happy with either.
just like i wanted.


  1. I have no greater fear than a teenage girl. But we already have such a special bond that I can't wait for those teenage years. And making up over ice cream after she calls me a bitch in Forever 21.

  2. As the mother of a 17 year old girl and a 14 year old boy - my basic thoughts are: girls are harder as teenagers but boys are harder when they are little. The b word may get muttered in my house (between C and I) but both genders are entirely fun. I will say this though - shopping for clothes - whatever the age - is tons better with a girl!